Are you facing a rough patch in your relationship? Do you want to work out the issues and misunderstandings? You really want to save the relationship no matter what? Really?
If so, then you got to do a few things. Everyone faces issues in their relationship, but some sort them out well whereas another end up in breaking up. So it’s up to you how much willing you are to keep your relationship smooth.
Anyhow, I have some ideas, which helped me when I faced such issues, so they may benefit you also.
- Talk, Communicate and Interact
It’s very important for your people to discuss your issues. To work things out in a relationship it is mandatory that both of you at least communicate your problems. Unless you inform your spouse about what you feel about things or what you are going through, the crisis will not be solved. I cannot exactly stress the importance of communication in a relationship but believe me that without it things won’t work out. The main issues for many couples are that they don’t get enough time together, so when they start experiencing difficulties their ego comes in between and they don’t try much to communicate with each other.
Now communication here does not mean that you start hurting each other by twisting words and their meanings. Rather it is to calm down the frustration in you which may develop if you don’t speak out what’s in you. Communicate and understand each other.
- Recall the good times spent together
You may get out of control when angry. This may result in harsh words which can hurt both the parties. Now recalling good times in such a situation can help things ease down. To do this you will have to control your anger and bear in mind the importance of your partner and relationship for both. Once both of you are in senses, you may recall the days when things were smooth and both of you were happy. Think about your first date or even your first gaze at each other. Try to forget the misunderstandings and conflicts and get together in by sharing the past. I know its easy to say but difficult to implement. But it really works.
- Try to forgive
Forgiveness is an important part when avoiding breakup. If you are really willing to save your relationship then you will have to forgive. Just evaluate whether the relationship is important for you or your ego (it may be self-respect at times).
There can be situations where you are right and your partner is being lame in pushing you to break up, so if even despite your efforts and flexibility your partner is not willing to save the relationship then you must respect his/her decision. It would be difficult for you but you have to accept reality.